“It’s being here now that’s important. There’s no past and there’s no future. Time is a very misleading thing. All there is ever, is the now. We can gain experience from the past, but we can’t relive it; and we can hope for the future, but we don’t know if there is one.”
― George Harrison
It’s a high time right now. Deep in to Summer months, either post or mid-vacation before the back-to-school rush, and for many, the countdown to Halloween has begun. This time of year has a tendency to FLY, kind of like the morning hours of a day as compared to the hours from 2-5pm which tend to drag on and on.
Time brings anxiety. For example, when first becoming pregnant with my 5 year-old daughter, I soon discovered the experience of time would be forever different. Instead of sailing on an ocean wave, deciding which one to catch next, I was riding on a freight train without brakes. Out of nowhere life was revolving around the measurement of my belly, and how many months until she’d arrive. There was an abrupt, loud TICK-TOCK that existed in my every step and more importantly, in my every THOUGHT. She was born, then it was her 1st month, 6th month, 1st year, 2nd year…and this October a 6th year birthday. A child’s cells divide so fast right before our eyes, that we don’t even notice our lives are marching on too. We “wake up” and said-child is driving, our parents are having trouble walking or we’re hosting their funerals, and our thirties or forties have vanished. POOF! Just like that. All of a sudden we’re going to be FIFTY…or even EIGHTY. And there’s not a darn thing we can do about that. Control goes out the door and time marches on – tick, tock, tick, tock, tick, tock…that incessant, annoying reality.
Here comes the PRESSURE, ANXIETY, STRESS, ADDICTION, STRESS-RELATED ILLNESS, SURGERIES and PHARMACEUTICALS!!! FOR GOD’s SAKE WE CAN’T FORGET THE PHARMACEUTICALS!!!!
IT’s GOING SO FAST! TAKE PICTURES!!! TAKE LOTS AND LOTS OF PICTURES!!!
I didn’t really know what I was going to write about when sitting down here, but what it appears to be is this unoriginal, probably over-talked about belabored thing called YOUR BREATH.
There is a way we can slow down the EXPERIENCE of time. It’s all about getting our brainy brains out of the way and tuning into the body…our bodies are the only thing ACTUALLY in the present moment.
Spending anywhere from 5 minutes to 20 minutes just SITTING ON THOSE SITZ BONES and bringing focused attention to:
…we are truly miraculous if you stop to ponder it.
If meditation or centered breathing is too weird or scary (ok, but you’re a grown up, so what’s to fear but fear itself? and if you haven’t noticed, its cool to be weird) then get quiet, stop the chatter, and listen. Listen to your friend, listen to your mom or dad, listen to your partner or your child. Listen to your people. Listen to your pets. REALLY hush up, take breaths and just LISTEN. Maybe even go so far as to also notice how YOU FEEL when they talk…do little check-in’s and experience the interaction more closely. Dig in to it.
Find yourself dancing with the experience of letting go of your oh-so-intelligent, highly treasured thoughts when they arise, just for those 300 seconds of your precious free time. Find yourself settling in, simmering down, releasing your cortisol, finding clarity, getting off the merry-go-round and taking in life one step at a time, AWAKE.
Soon, as you create a new daily practice with those new habitual neuro-pathways, you’ll sink to into the crevices of your body that are always informing you. Lean toward them and be brave, for the information you’ll discover will open doors, lead you to places you’ve never imagined and ultimately slow…down…..your….experience…of….life. Ta-daa! Just like that.
Enjoy the ride.